My friend and I decided that when speaking to a girl who you feel remotely attracted to you need to ask them a few questions. These questions aren't there to show how caring you are or to establish the best plan of attack (men think like this), rather they are there to put you off. The questions should be so hard to get perfectly right that you'll realise that this girl isn't for you and so you'll stop flirting with her (like the fool that you are). In the end we decided that you only need to really ask them two questions, however these two questions should be so impossibly hard to answer 100% correctly that their is no chance of them doing so. While other people's questions will differ, here are mine.
(8) Martin
(t) Paranoid Android - Thom Yorke (solo performance)
(book) John 1:1-2
'The What ?'
answer 2 on both counts for me-ee
so do you want me now or what?
Reasons number #7 and #21 why I don't fancy stoobs.
I think that if this site (www.antithesis.com) had a dating agency you would soon find a girl who answered yes to both of those questions
While the ideas behind that site are wonderful the lack of content is a disgrace. And I don't think I could could ever love someone who loved that code. Sob :'(
Bring on October mayhaps.
What do you mean? Haven't you checked out the back issues?
There's months and months and months of stuff...
Ah good point. The first few where bust but now I see. Excellent work.
The what ?
What 'the what?'
Explain!
You what ?
My questions would be... are you single, female & a Christian :P
Why would you ask a girl if she was female? Or are you that easily confused?
Why would you ask a girl if she was female? Or are you that easily confused?
Why would you ask a girl if she was female? Or are you that easily confused?
It might be dark...
Why would you ask if she was Christian ? Do you people breed only with each other or something.
Stop missing the point. The point is not to check for availibility, the point is to release that you should stop flirting with them because they are not a prospective significant other.
As for 'only breeding with each other', yeah pretty much so. The point is if Christianity is so central and important to your life, to share your life with someone else who isn't a Christian is just plain silly, and will end in tears.
It'd be all 'honey, I feel we should trust God on this' 'honey, God doesn't exist'.
So basically you have fall in love with a christian. What a crap religion.
not really. You have more holiding you together than fragile human love.
Besides, I insantly have so much more in common with Christian girls, and they're nicer anyway :P
No your just making excuses. And how do you know you have more of a holding ? We both will never which is best....
You can't deny that I would instantly have more in common with an average Christian girl than you would with a random non-Christian girl. If you disputed that, you've badly misunderstood the religion. Which, come to think of it, would explain why you called it a "crap religion"
Christians don't *have* to breed with each other. It just tends to work out better if the basis of your lives and stuff have a common ground. I have a mate who's an atheist and he's into social justice and charity and stuff. He could never go out with a Tory. Point is, spiritual aspect aside, if something is deeply important to you, it makes sense to be with someone who shares that.
But, um, about those questions.
You're asking girls about their tastes in theology and
pop music, as if that'll give you some sort of window into their soul? Silly child.
You haven't got a girlfried, have you? :p
The only thing ur gonna have in comman with another Xtian is God, whadda fu*k else ? Church / bible / bread fish water wine. Its not something in common, its more of a shared interest, which is no different from me falling in love with someone who works in tech support for Ntl (well Manpower now)
Just a "shared interest"?
What about the moral underpinning of faith? What about the lifestyle? What about the shared mutual belief in a God who guides and protects and loves? What about the shared faith in the transformative power of God?
A shared interest doesn't transform lives. A shared interest doesn't redefine the fabric of your heart. And whether you believe it or not, this is what a faith - any faith - does.
Well thats a fair point, but then again what about faith in your partner. You cant go looking towards someone who possibly doesnt exist for help. So your just living in the beleif that someone is whatching and helping, which im sure if he is a loving god, he would do anyway even if your partner was not christian.
...and that's a fair point, and I know several very happy mixed-faith (or faith + no faith) couples. And, believe it or not, it pretty much says something to the effect of what you just said in the Bible. Well, more or less.
But there's other things you have to bear in mind, too - like a common sense of purpose, a common moral framework, and - the clincher - a common means of relating to society.
Thing about faith and politics and stuff like that is that for many (not all, obviously) people it's a foundational part of their identity. While it's an oversimplification to say you're only ever going to go out with someone who holds your foundational beliefs (relationships are rarely that neat), It only stands to reason that someone who holds Christian faith to be the most important part of the way they construct their identity would want to be with someone who considers it just as important to them.
Or, put it this way: if the person you're with can't communicate with you on the deepest level, what are you doing with them?
"Youíre asking girls about their tastes in theology and
pop music, as if thatíll give you some sort of window into their soul? Silly child."
"It's what you like, not what you are like" - Rob Fleming - High Fidelity
This is a website by Mark Walley. If you want to find out more or get in touch, that'd be nice.
Getting around this website can be a tad confusing. If you're looking to explore the better stuff of what I've written then this navigation should help you. If you're after a specific post then searching or looking through the archives chronologically may help.
This site tries its best to be accessible for everyone. Atom, and RSS feeds are available. All content licensed through a creative commons licence. I may have stolen ideas off you when you weren't looking, but it was almost certainly an accident. As with all claims of originality and ownership Psalm 24 v1 applies.
Matthew
Mark, I think I'm unconsciously emulating your every action. This is scary. Please do something life-threatening so I can break this cycle...
(In other words, those questions are not only perfect but uncannily similar to my own ideas on this having just read the title.)