The problem with going to a wedding (congratulations Nic!) with your girlfriend is that you can't really discuss how you'd like to do your own wedding. The problem isn't with the actual content of the conversation so much as the way you open up the topic. See you could say "When I get married I'd..." but by saying 'when' you imply that you're going to get married some day and if you're going to get married then you've going to get married to an actual person and if you're going to get married to an actual person then you're either saying you're going to get married to your current girlfriend or you're saying that you're going to get married to someone else and from neither of those conversation openers are you going to come off looking good.
You could of course say "If I get married I'd..." which on the service sounds much better. Well, at least it does to you. To a girl it sounds like "I want to get married but I don't want to get married to you, because I'm unsure about our relationship. I guess It's an 'if' sort of relationship, where anything could happen. I'm a man. I lack commitment". Out of that conversation there is no escape.
(t) Rhi
Does that work with the weird 'kids' names' topic of conversation..? I.e. 'IF those were my kids'...
I don't believe in penile substitution! There, I said it.
Easy solution, get engaged.
Yes Ben...
"Hmm I can't discuss how I'd like my wedding to run with my girlfriend because she'll get the wrong idea. I know, I'll ask her to marry me. That'll get round the problem."
The only reason I can think of for you saying that is you've just got engaged and want to brag about it.
"Are we going to get married?"
if the answer is 'no', then you know you're wasting your time and should scour the internet for one who will.
actually, what sort of man plans their wedding? eat more testosterone, boy!
Surely that's unfair... If they knew they'd get married, there's no point in dating, they might as well be engaged. I think a 'dating' kind of a relationship should never start with 'we're going to get married'! That's crazy! On the other hand, that may have been lighthearted/a joke I didn't get.
Goodnight my sheep.
Note to self... make less facetious comments in future in case people take them seriously...
Ben: I'm still buying a hat.
David: If I could have started the conversation safely I would have said "In my wedding I want there to be HUGE EXCITING EXPLOSIONS and LOUD ROCK MUSIC and BIG CARS WITH MASSIVE WHEELS" however I didn't. So there.
My humour is wasted here. Enjoy the hat!
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